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看着你所写的,心顿了一下;
看着你流血的手,心疼了一下;
但我没有同情你,也不会同情你。。。
因为你经历的我也经历过,
我也试过看着自己流血的手。。。
我不会叫你不要再伤害自己。。。
因为我也曾经是被劝的那个,
可是,手有多少次被刮破???
看着你的失败,我很开心。。。
同样对爱情许下承诺的我们。。。
都拿自己的生命当赌注。。。
不过,你先输了。。。

自:谢凯
于:2010年1月31日
11.26pm

其实每个女生都是一个傻丫头~

一。和她发短信时,回复一定要快,让她觉得你放下手上的事情立刻回复她,字数一定要比她的多,这样她会觉得你很在乎她。



二。每天睡觉之前一定要给她一条道“晚安”的短信,不管你有多晚,因为她可能一直在等你,只是她嘴上说不管。即便是她已经昏昏睡去,第二天一醒来也会立刻去查收信息。



三。看到她的未接电话要立刻打过去,任何时候不要让她找不到你,因为这样她会一直很不安心。



四。你问她想不想你时,如果她说不想,你不要生气,因为她的不想就是想。



五。千万要记得女生都是害羞的,不要什么都让她主动。也不要在她表现心疼、吃醋、关心你的时候不停地问,只要偷偷地笑心里甜就够了,也许她不想让你知道她无时无刻不在想对你好。



六。经常去她的空间逛逛,即使什么也不留下,但是她看到你来过的痕迹也会很开心,也许有些心情就是为你而写。顺便看看她的心情日志什么的,还有她好友的留言,多知道点她的小秘密挺好,准备惊喜也容易点。



七。牵了手就不要轻易说分手,吵架的时候也不要说。如果她赌气跑开,只要一个用力的拥抱就能让她安静,就能让她感觉到你的爱。希望你能懂她离开时想要被挽留,如果说出口那只是乞求来的温柔。



八。开始一段新的恋情的前提是放下前面的所有恋情,你可以把她们给你的信物和美好记忆保留着,但是请把这些用一个匣子藏在她永远不会发现的地方,因为那些她不知道的事对于她是致命的伤害。记住女生都是敏感的动物。



九。如果一时冲动分了手,请给彼此冷却的时间,想清楚她就是你想要的人就勇敢地告诉她,不管用什么手段,死皮赖脸也好让她回到你身边就好。如果真的爱她就不要放开她,不要让她伤心,不要让她流泪,你明明知道她有多傻,她会傻傻等你的,你知道女生的青春有多么宝贵么!如果你还心疼她绝不要在分手不到一个月就移情别恋,这样等于在她伤口上撒盐。请你交换角色想一想,如果你女朋友和你分手第二天就在别的男人怀里开心地笑,你的心会有多痛?



如果你有一个傻丫头,请你好好珍惜她好好爱她好吗?也许你不知道你的一句关心,你的一个微笑,你的一个吻,一个拥抱,一个摸头发的动作都是她的幸福,其实她要的只是这么简单。她不奢求太多的惊喜,太多的浪漫,有你就是她所有的幸福。不要轻易放开她,因为她是傻丫头,她会在别人面前装的很强,对每个人微笑,然后半夜一个人躲在楼梯拐角处偷偷哭啼,她会不停地听着和你有关的歌,默默关注着你,默默的生病,默默的流泪,她会开始变的沉默,变得开始唱悲伤的歌,弹悲伤的曲子。

如果你真的有一个傻丫头请记得你说的话好吗?请你让她幸福,给她幸福,要自信的对她说:“我会让你变成全世界最幸福的人,我要让所有的人都羡慕你有一个好老公。”



取自于:其实每个女生都是一个傻丫头~ http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=317787960096&id=666346072&ref=mf


“写”得很好。。。很感动。。。可是,这世上真的会有这样的男生吗???真的会有不曾伤害过女生的男生吗???

我真的有读书哦。。。

嘻嘻。。。

为了证明我有读书!!!
erm~~~读什么书???嘻嘻。。。
面子书(Facebook)?
不是啦。。。早就读完了。。。哈哈哈。。。
读~读~读~~~
public speaking and communication...(PSC)^^...

Chapter 1

*Macro functions
~To create & build community
~To promote diversity
*Micro functions
~To define myself
~To spread information
~To debate issues of fact, value & policy
~To effect individual & group change
*Benefits
~Personal & social competencies
~Academic & career skills
~Communication skills

IMPOSSIBLE===>>>I'M POSSIBLE

Chapter 2

*Getting started
~Attitude
~Appearance
~Content
~Integrity
~Language
~Organization
~Timing & pacing
~Voice
*Choose topic that
~you know a lot (experienced & have own knowledge)
~you want to know (interesting )
~follow the guideline & time limit
~you feel comfortable (easy to present)
~you spent time on RESEARCHING not a PERFECT TOPIC

!!! LACK OF PREPARATION WILL SHOW UP IN YOUR PRESENTATION!!!
#########(LIKE SOME LECTURES )########

*Steps in selecting topic
~Generate Ideas
@Brainstorming~ come out many many many ideassss in short time(man=selfish, greedy, money-minded, sex-minded, porn movie & many many many... )
@Personal Inventory~ everything about yourself (why i look beautiful???)
@Clustering~5P CENT (People, Places, Plans, Processes, Problem, Concept,Events, Natural phenomena, Things)
@Reference search~ !!Tool!!==>dictionary, topic finder, periodical databases...
@Internet Search~ Yahoo, Google...
*Select topics==Choose topics^^...
*Focus topics==do not tackle topics that are too broad or too narrow

CONDOM==>>Just cant DO without it...

Chapter 3

*Tips for doing research
1. Start early--give u time to think
2. Make a preliminary bibliography
*personal filling file
~Article file--article on topics that interest u
~Quotation file--collections of memorable, important passages
~Speech file--materials or note on preparation & delivery a speech
3. Take notes efficiently--use index card if written by hand
4. Analyse materials--to get new idea

*Organization
1.Introduction
~Attention statement
-- help listener tune in to the speech(get their interest)
--use presentational aids to grab their attention
--rhetorical question~a transition leading to what u say
--response question~need audience answers
--surprising fact~to arouse audience curiosity
~Purpose statement
--inform audience your views, objective & main idea
--give direction to audience
--bring subject area to focus
2. Body
~Supporting information--supporting material to elaborate on main idea
~Transition-- A phrase leading 1 idea to another
--smooth, logical flow of idea
##Pattern of body
topical--got several point to present
problem-solution--problem>>solution of it
chronological-- time sequence
spacial-- physical space and area
causal--cause>>effect
pro-con--advantage >> disadvantage
Gimmick/Mnemonic --1st letter of each main points stands for a word or rhymes
3. Conclusion
~summary-summarize main idea
~Reinforcement of thesis-- highlight significance
*Modes of delivery
Impromptu speaking--focus on what is being to say
--be prepare
--give a direct response
--keep it short
--move toward the conclusion
Fully scripted speech
~speaking from manuscript--advance~easy to delivery
~include many details
--dis-advance~difficult to prepare
~reduced audience contact
~boring
~Memorizing --advance~giving a different occasion
~more audience contact
--dis-advance~difficult to memorize
~sound memorized
~lack naturalness
Speaking Extemporaneously--prepared, delivered without note
--work from an outline
--know what you are saying
--natural
--maintain eye contact
--confident

@@@SLOW DOWN...EYE CONTACT@@@

Chapter 4
*Importance using visual aid
`increase message clarity
`increase speaker dynamic
`reinforce message impact
`enhance speaker confidence
*Types of Presentation aid
`Graphics
`Electronic aid
`Projection
`Object
`Handout
`Audio or others
*Supporting material
~purpose--clarity~to understand
--vividness~to remember
--Credibility~to make them believe
~types--definition
--statistical data
--explanation
--example
--interest grabber

%%SHIT:Holy me...they r after us! FUCK:What the me are we gonna to do?%%

Chapter 5

*Public speaking carry ethical responsibilities, not to be abused
~observed every stage of speech making process
*Ethics
--tell truth, be honest
--avoid plagiarism
--keep information in perspective
--be tolerant
--set goal
--be prepared
--avoid name-calling
--use truthful supporting material
*plagiarism~~present others language or idea as your own
global--stealing entirely from single source and passing it as own
patchwork--copying from 2 or 3 sources
incremental--borrowed from other people
`quotation--attributing word to that people
`paraphrases--restate or summarize an author' s idea in own words
*Prevent plagiarism
`don't do last minute work
`find a large number of sources in your research
`cite your source

!!!COPYCAT!!!

Chapter 6

*Communication anxiety
`Signs
--butterflies in stomach
--hands shaking
--cold hands/ feet
--blank mind
--cold sweat
--dry mouth
`Symptoms
--attitude toward public speaking
--origin from childhood
--previous experience
`way to overcome
--Visualization~systematic desensitization>>frightening event
--positive nervousness: energize speaker

***SO, IT'S OK TO FEEL NERVOUS!!

Chapter 7
*Guideline to build confidence
1. Know how to react to stress
--predict, anticipate and cope with it
eg. if your hands shake ---don't hold paper
2.Know your speech
--don't memorize entire speech
eg. memorize only the main point
3.Know speech principle
--use effective introduction
eg. how to develop key idea, construct body and conclude speech
4.Believe your topic
--believe what you say will benefit audience
eg. love your topic,you will become deeply involve in delivery your speech
5.Identify your strength and weakness
--use your voice, body, mind, personality to your advantages
eg. if not good in delivery hamour, don't start with a joke
6.Practice your delivery
--practice from the start to the end without stopping
eg. time yourself-do not excess the time limit given
7. Project to confidence
--to feel confident, you need to act confident
eg. walk confidently, talk confidently, look directly to audience
8. Visualization success
--a method to reduce anxiety>>helping speaker develop a mental picture of themselves giving a success speech
eg. picture that you are giving a successful speech from the beginning to the end.
9.Learn from experience
--After each speech, access your performance
eg. focus on what worked and did, how audience reacted....

~~CONFIDENCE---I AM SO BEAUTIFUL...^^...

Chapter 8

*Communication(latin=communicare)
--make common to many
--share
--impart
--divide

*types
~vocal
speech--word, language,sentence
non-speech--sound that we create
~non-vocal
tactile--touch
olfactory--smell
visual--sight
proxemics--distance,space.
*the triangle of meaning
~interpreter--speaker / listener>>someone communicate
~symbol--anythings to which people attach to meaning
~referent--object and idea that symbol represents>>depend on each individual knowledge and experience

*5 levels
intrapersonal
interpersonal
group
public
mass
*7 elements
speaker
message
listener
feedback
channel/medium
environment
noise

Why is that nerd staring at me...!!!

Chapter 9

*Ethnicity
stereotype
racism
prejudice
discrimination

GAY AND LESBIAN==AIDS

Chapter 10

*Audience analysis
demographics--things that we can count or sure>>gender, age, racial...
situational--types(voluntary/captive), size of audience
psycho-graphic--things that we can not count or sure>>belief, attitude, values, behaviors
*Specific content
size of audience--larger=more formal
smaller=more informal
physical environment--indoor/outdoor, sitting/ standing audience
occasion--purpose of audience gathering
time of speech--duration

sequence of event--try to make connection with previous speech

*Understanding context--anything that has happened in immediate past
*Context of recent speech
Preliminary tuning effect
--created by a previous speech>>affect audience to respond +ve/-ve to your speech
overcome -ve preliminary tuning
--modify the introduction
--use humour to lighten the atmosphere
*Context of recent event--audience's knowledge of local, national & international event.
*Audience size will affect in--manner of presentation, delivery, language, use of visual aids, choice of appeal.

*Listening VS Hearing
1.active, learned,voluntary skill 1.passive,naturally skill
2.required energy and effort to make 2.require no effort on receiver
sense of what we hear.
3.a chance to participate in the process 3.physical process=sound wave
stimulate nerve impulses to brain
4.gain new info, laugh, be entertain 4.automatic,innate ability

*Listening process
1.Receive--hearing sounds
2.Select--attending, high selective process,less attention on filter out others
3.Interpret--attach meaning to message
4.Understand--relate to exist knowledge or belief>>what speaker trying to do(based on content & context).
5.Evaluate--judging and criticising the reliability of speaker and quantity of info.
6.Resolve--deciding what to do.(answering)

Chapter 11

Strategies for getting audience's attention
1.Question your audience
rhetorical-stimulates thought but not elicit a response.
direct-seeks an audience's response.
2.Arouse curiosity
technique of suspense,get audience wondering what is to come.
eg.startle them with an arresting statement.
3.Stimulate imagination
requires good audience analysis
eg.relating personal experience
4.Promise something beneficial
fulfill audience needs
eg.how to save money
5.Energize your audience
how you carry and portray yourself
eg.appearance, voice..
6.Amuse your audience
humour make audience laugh, relax, alert and more receptive to your speech
7.Tell a story
be it dramatic or suspenseful
8.Acknowledge and compliment your audience
make them a part of your speech
9. Use visual aid
engage audience sense and attention

How to build speaker-audience-topic relationship
1.Establish your credibility --use reliable supporting materials,evidence, statistic
2.Refer to audience--relate your message to audience
3.Refer to occasion--refer to the reason of the audience gathered
4.Express your pleasure in speaking
5.Express similarities with audience--create a bond with them

Chapter 12

*Type of speech
1.Speech of introduction
--introducing a speaker>>done by MC...
2.Speech of presentation
--before conferring an award, a price or recognition
3.Acceptance speech
--response to speech of presentation
--recipient of award
--thank
4.Speech of tribute
--honouring somebody
5.Speech to entertain(to make u happy)
--make a point through the creative, humour.
6.Impromptu speech
--limited , no advance preparation
7.Videotaped speech
--a speech taped

Chapter 13

*3 dimension of the message
1.primary message
--verbal content
--word of speaker uses to express idea
2.Auxiliary message
--oral dimension(control by audience)
--tone, vocal,eye contact.
3.Secondary message
--not part of speaker's plan
--created by audience due to characteristic of speaker has no control
--race, gender,age...

*Non-verbal communication
~posture
~gesture
~movement
~eye contact
*Vocal communication
~volume
~projection
~pitch
~vocal emphasis
~rate of delivery
*Emphasising key point
~repetition--repeating the important points
~pointer phrases--highlight the important key words
~oratorical emphasis--use of gesture,change in volume
~visual reinforcement--using visual aid
*Respond to question
1.know your subject
show your audience you know what you are talking
eg.use different words
2.Anticipate question
welcome opportunity to clarify your points
3.Be succinct
answer question directly
4.Encourage involvement
question period should move rapidly& involve as many as people possible
5.Maintain control
--don't let anyone take the floor away from you
6.Know when to stop
--close the presentation with a final comment

THERE IS ALL FOR PUBLIC SPEAKING AND COMMUNICATION...THANK YOU...


HELLO~~~


把部落格抛弃这么久还想有点过分了噢!
嘻嘻。。。对不起哦。。。
就是不想写。。。
在读书咯,对啦。。。
凯凯在读书。。。是真的啦!
不可以在懒惰了,儿,不过。。。
学坏三天,学好三年嘛!
给点时间凯凯,我已经很进步了。。。
以前是上课时才拿书的,考试别叫我读书哦。。。
我会骂人的。。。所以啊。。。
成绩一向都不是很好。。。
最好的一次也只有在全级拿过第37名而已。。。

现在我有读书哦。。。
不过,要秀玲叫的。。。哈哈。。。
我真的很幸运有她当我的舍友哦。。。^^。。。
她好勤劳哦。。。
每天我还在睡觉时,她已经在客厅读书了。。。
有时会很惭愧叻。。。

所以真的要加油了。。。
加油,加油,加油。。。